Why is gossip in the office

"Gossip kills three at once - the one who says it, the one who listens to it, and the one of whom it describes," was said in the Hebrew Bible. Many ofisery heard it, just smile. They can hardly imagine life without gossip.

Gossip fill the information vacuum and help to "kill time" - not for nothing that the greatest amount of gossip is born in organizations where people are not very loaded work. Gossip is often seen as an occasion for dialogue and a way to build trust. And many people gossip because it is - a good way to self-defense.

When two members (e.g. serketar and Accounting) are insulted on the third, they penetrate mutual liking. Gossip divides people into "us" and "foreign", strengthens self-esteem and self-worth have "dedicated". And those who do not wish to engage in "rumor-mongering" colleagues may be considered "outcasts" and then select the object of gossip.

If you realize that gossiping about you, try not to make the situation worse. Firstly, we can not pretend that nothing at all happens. Second, do not need to explain to anyone how things really are.

Instead, check with the most benevolent colleagues that over the rumors about you in the team and who distributes them. Talk to the gossip, the best witnesses. Behave calmly, confidently, and if you can - fun. Tell him: "What nonsense. Of course, this is not true. " But even if this were true - what others care?

Find the strength to ensure that does not attach much importance to gossip. Remember the words of Oscar Wilde: "Worse than gossip about you, maybe just their absence." Bright, notable people and arouse interest - envy. Gossip as it allows you to "join" them. Never gossip only for those who have nothing of itself is not.

By the way, rumor is the source of information and on who the gossip recounts. A person who constantly relishes the facts of one's life, earning a reputation as a gossip, and that this fact somehow disprove it will not be easy.

Do not tell stories from colleagues of his life, which then can be a cause for gossip. And learn how to evade of cursing themselves. In particular, do not discuss leadership. Some insecure leaders of "recruiting" in an environment subject to "language", which then recounts his "private" conversations employees.

And in general - try to see in people especially good. Man by nature is good. Believe in it and do not attach importance to the stories.